***This blog is not a guide to fertility nor is it meant to be uplifting. It is the ramblings of a half mad woman who has been fighting infertility for 10 years.***
So, as mentioned before in a few blogs, my Viking and I
struggle with infertility. Actually, I struggle with infertility, he endures.
See, it is my problem.
I am 35 now. I was 25 when I learned there was an issue with
my fertility. It seems I do not make enough progesterone, which besides
annovulation (That lack of ovulation) and
lack of a menstrual cycle, progesterone deficiency causes a slew of other health
problems.
We have used up all of our savings on procedures and
treatments, spent all of our hope, depleted my self esteem, and barrowed much
from my sanity seemingly without the ability to pay it back.
My Viking seems unfazed. I, on the other hand, feel like
crap. I feel like it would be easier for him to ask me to draw water from an
empty well, catch a rainbow or spin straw into gold.
Recently we have tried another round of Clomid before going
to see a fertility clinic in Portland. We started with 50mg of Clomid which must be taken at veryspecific times during your cycle. This
can be tough for someone who has PCOS and Estrogen Dominance because your cycle is not regular at all and you can ovulate late. None
the less, I read everything I could get my hands on about charting and timing
sex and Basal Temperatures. I had
charts and graphs everywhere. I looked like I was studying global warming.
The first round really felt like it worked. I felt the pinch of ovulation in my ovary,
had sore boobs and my nipples felt like they were sunburned. The ovulation
predictor even said that I had an LH surge which is the hormone that tells your
ovaries to release an egg.
For two weeks I was sick, nauseous, bloated and had a heavy
feeling in my uterus. I was soooo sure we were pregnant, we started picking out names:
Malcolm if its a boy after Malcolm Reynolds, a character from the show FireFly.
Amber if it's a girl because everyone is naming their baby Sophia, which is what I always wanted to name my daughter. The Viking doesn't like the other names I picked out such as Aurora, Athena or Anastasia. I wanted her name to have a warm glow to it.
The body can be as cruel as the gods. I waited to test until two days past my expected menstrual cycle, but the test came back negative. I tested again, straining my eyes for the faintest sign of a double line with no success. I bought a digital test and then debated the true meaning of the word "NOT."
The second month I didn't need progesterone. My period
started on it's own after picking up Metformin again which is pretty normal. I took another 50mg of
Clomid on the 5th day of my cycle everyday for 5 days just like instructed.
This time I felt nothing. No sore boobs, no sickness- I felt nothing but a deep
lingering depression. Depression is
nothing new to me, especially when dealing with infertility, but ending my
life? That's not me at all. I looooooove life. I am happy...what was happening
to me? This depression made friends with anxiety which clung to me like sweat
and was as suffocating as smoke.
Thoughts of ending my life would hit me unexpectedly and as
I increased the Clomid dose from 50mg to 100mg the feelings became so intense I
was afraid to be left alone. I would sometimes crawl into my Vikings lap shaking
with fear. I wish that was an exaggeration, but it's not. I was afraid that I might be over taken by these feelings and really
do harm to myself.
My Dr. ordered a HYSTEROSALPINGOGRAM to make sure there was no blockage etc. which
went well and I was told this could increase my chances of getting pregnant for
three months just by having the procedure done. I was mid cycle when the
procedure was actually done. Since the hospital demanded cash upfront- it took the last
of the money I had saved.
After the report said that all systems were clear, My doctor then
upped my dose of Clomid to 100mg. Things were really busy for me at work, but I
managed to take a little time off on the days my epic charting said that I
should. My boobs hurt, my back hurt, I was sick with vomiting and diarrhea and then there was the pain. My right ovary,
which had never hurt before, suddenly made itself known. I couldn't sit, squat,
stoop, bend or lay on my right side at all. I knew this had to be a good sign
as it was far too early for it to be an entopic pregnancy. I saw my doctor on day 21 so I could have the progesterone withdrawal test to see if I had
ovulated and explained to her I was in a ton of pain. She of course
had to poke my tender spots and decided I needed an ultrasound. The ultrasound
confirmed that I was indeed telling the truth, that ovary was as big as an egg
McMuffin and had 13 black holes where it looked like eggs may have ruptured
from.
Could it be that I had 13 tiny Vikings making their way to the
promised land?
No. None of them implanted and furthermore....the
Progesterone test said I had not ovulated at all.
So the next step is 150mg of Clomid and I am scared.
Everyday I ask myself when will it be ok to stop? When can I just be happy with
the life I have without a baby? I mean I want this, but it is my Viking who
wants an heir to his kingdom. I have
always felt like if I can't produce an heir I'll suffer the fate of Ann Boleyn. Not that my Viking is a wife killing tyrant or anything, but he
could cast me away. It's a silly thought, but it's how I feel. Like I am just a
temporary cast member unless the audience decides they like me and the writers
re-write history, Ann has a son and gets to keep her head. I bet she felt like she was trying to spin
straw into gold as well. I bet she sometimes felt that the gods were cruel.
So today I start another 7 days of progesterone to jump
start my cycle, which happens nearly right away upon stopping the progesterone,
followed by 5 days of 150mg of Clomid. I am scared. Not just that it wont work,
but what the next 30 days are going to be like on my psyche. It has taken a great
amount of effort these past few months to appear calm and serene outside of the
house, as though my waters were as smooth as glass, but only yesterday the
glass cracked and a flood of emotion poured out while sitting at my desk. I
nearly drowned in it.
I just want to be done with all of this. It's all so embarrassing.
All things private are brought to light. Sex doesn't feel like sex anymore.
It's lost the magic. Babies make me sad, it's too hard to pray, I am driving my
loved ones crazy.
UPDATE*** Day 3 of progesterone and I suffered a blinding migraine for half of the day. I have also gained 11 pounds since last month. :( My cycle should start this Friday 5/3/13 which means that I'll start the 150mg of Clomid on the 8th. If you're reading this, wish me luck. Send me some baby dust. If you're going through the same thing...hang in there.
